How To Transform Your Pain Into Positive Growth

“The struggles along the way are only meant to shape you for your purpose.” – Chadwick Boseman.

 In light of Chadwick Boseman’s death, I want to honour him and share how he inspired me to turn my pain into positive growth and purpose and know that our story, no matter who we are, ALWAYS MATTERS.

Chadwick’s inspiring story clarified that we are all much more alike than we are different. When we share our story it can impact someone so positively, that it can change their life, for the better, forever.

Chadwick Boseman was a humanitarian and successful actor. When he graduated University he landed a role, in a TV series, as a stereotypical young African-American male, with barely a glimpse of positivity in his character and barely a glimpse of hope. After filming the first few episodes, the executives called him into their office and told him how happy they were with his performance and that they wanted him to be around for a long time. They said, “If there’s anything you need, just let us know”.

He felt it, his mission and purpose in life, to speak up about indirect prejudices. He found a window to ask simple questions about the background of his character. Questions that he thought were pertinent to the plot. Questions like “Where’s my father?” The Executive answered and said matter of factly, “Well, he left when you were younger”. It was just assumed that the viewers would know this was, as he was playing a “stereotypical” character. To listen to the full story (watch Chadwick Boseman’s Howard University 2018 Commencement Speech here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RIHZypMyQ2s)

After asking these few simple questions, he was let go from that job. The Executives weren’t fond of him questioning they’re character depiction and decided to go another way. Chadwick was crushed. Although he was disappointed, he knew he had planted the seed that would be watered by the actor that came after him, who would play a much less stereotypical role and in turn start shifting the narrative around African-American males.

While he was proud for not accepting what didn’t feel right, he stated ”Yet and still, when you invest in a seed, watching it grow without you, that is a bitter pill to swallow. A bitter pill.”

Anybody that’s ever been fired would understand this. Even if you don’t want the job, when they let you go, you might act like you don’t care but you do, at some level, care because you’ve made an investment , no matter how big or small. 

You’re probably wondering how you can relate to this, in your own life. It’s summed up perfectly, in this inspiring quote by Chadwick Boseman:

“The struggles along the way are only meant to shape you for your purpose”. – Chadwick Boseman

I too, was let go from a job. 2 jobs actually. I’d invested so much of my time, effort and money into my own personal development as well as into the roles themselves. Even though I quit climbing the corporate ladder, a couple of years before, I still needed an income to sustain my living expenses while I built my passion project, Tha Happiness Guide. I wanted to work in the advertising industry because it’s where I felt I could make I could be most creative until I created my own profitable business. Unfortunately, the advertising industry is a cut throat industry, probably very similar to Hollywood. They want you to be individual but not TOO unique that you stand out, they want you to come up with ideas, but not TOO big that they propel you into success. They want you to commit your whole life to the job, but they can fire you without a moment’s notice. 

I felt Chadwick Bosemans’ story to the very core of my being and related at every single level. It’s a truly heroic story and although we may encounter struggles on our journey that bare the weight of the world on our shoulders we must take pride, still, and own our journey for “the struggles along the way are only meant to shape us for our purpose”.

I created Tha Happiness Guide so that I had a place to freely express myself, with the aim of empowering women to use their own voice and share their story. I learnt that sometimes you have to get knocked down before you really figure out what your fight is and how you need to fight it. Chadwick also said ‘Sometimes you need to feel the pain and sting of defeat, to activate the real passion and purpose that God predestined inside of you.”

God says in Jeremiah – “I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future.

I was reminded once again that you would rather find your purpose than a job or career and when I was fired from my job I was OK, because I knew what my purpose was. I just need to activate the passion inside of me to pursue it and make it happen.

My purpose is to guide women to the most expressed and empowered version of themselves so they can know true freedom.  I believe every woman deserves the freedom to express herself, without caring what anyone else thinks. I’m deeply grateful I found mentorship and an education, with The Six Figure Mentors, that has enabled me to create a life of true freedom and happiness. Starting my own internet-based business is the best thing I’ve ever done.

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Tha Happiness Guide by Tahnya Iva 

A note from the author

I believe everybody deserves to live life with the freedom to be their authentic self. The journey back to self after years of social conditioning, gaslighting, manipulation and trauma can be complicated but it doesn’t have to be long.  I’m pleased to be able to offer a complimentary call to anybody who feels working together might be beneficial for them. You can book a private coaching call with me here. It’s completely free.

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