How To Stop Fighting Your Way Through Life (So You Can Start Thriving Your Way Through Life!)

So often we can find ourself fighting our way through life. We fight for payrises, for acceptance and sometimes even for love. Without stopping to think, what are we fighting for and will fighting for this truly make me happy?

I spent 8 years climbing the corporate ladder, fighting to be heard, fighting for a payrise, fighting for validation and recognition.

I often questioned why I didn’t wake up to my true value sooner but I guess that’s the irony of life. Sometimes we have to go through something in order to receive the lesson.

There’s only so much that’s in our control in life and while fighting our way through seems to be the norm for most, I want to explore the idea of allowing, receiving and opportunity in this article so you can shift from fight mode to thrive mode!

When we fight for something we want in life, we’re actually in a state of resistance and as a result of that resistance we create more of what we don’t want. The Law of Resistance makes sure that you keep encountering what you fear the most, so you can deal with it and then grow from it. Not because growth is supposed to be painful (although it can be), but because the whole point is to learn to trust the process.

Because we’re fighting so hard for what we want, we forget to trust all our prayers have already been answered. Our only job is to prepare to receive them and when we do, to appreciate them. 

We beat ourselves up when things don’t go as planned but by beating ourselves up and fighting what is, we push what we want further and further away. Sometimes we’re fighting so hard, we think it’s normal and that this is ‘just how life is.’ But life isn’t supposed to be hard. It’s supposed to be experienced and when you truly get that, even the tough times don’t seem so bad.

We fight for love, we fight to belong, we fight for recognition, we fight for a payrise, we fight to be our best selves and in doing all of that, we forget to surrender and trust. Fighting for anything in life is counterproductive to living a happy and fulfilling life. 

Fighting for love says we don’t trust that love is our true nature and anything else isn’t real.

Fighting to belong or to be a part of something meaningful says we don’t believe we bring meaning to whatever we are currently experiencing.

Fighting for a payrise says we don’t believe that we are capable of generating our own income from the gifts and God-given purpose and talents we already have within us. 

Fighting to be our best self says we don’t believe we’re enough as we are right now.

By choosing to fight our way through life and hoping that what we’re fighting for will soon be given, noticed or appreciated shows us that we’re out of alignment with who we truly are. Because who we truly are is effortless enoughness.

When we’re able to surrender in each moment, we choose to live in the present and in the present there are no problems, there’s only opportunity and bliss.

Life wants to give you what you want, you just have to stop fighting so hard, so you have space to receive it.

Tha Happiness Guide by Tahnya Iva 

A note from the author

I believe everybody deserves to live life with the freedom to be their authentic self. The journey back to self after years of social conditioning, gaslighting, manipulation and generational trauma can be complicated and lonely but it doesn’t have to be long.  I’m pleased to be able to offer a complimentary call to anybody who feels working together might be beneficial for them. You can book a private coaching call with me here. It’s completely free.

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